Yesterday I opened my Instagram and the first post I saw said something about, don’t you wish there was a way to give back being an adult? And as I read that I though, “No! Why would I want to be a child again?” It then got me thinking about all of the posts I have seen over the past few years of people complaining about having to “adult”. And then I started thinking about what would happen if we never became adults.
I then thought about the benefits of being an adult. This is where the photo comes in… as a child you have friends, people you play with, and do all sorts of craziness with… but I can’t really remember any time in my childhood that I felt like there were friends there to pull me up or to cheer me on up the mountain I was facing.
However, as an adult, I can’t imagine living life without the friends I have. Not only are they there to have fun with and go on amazing trips with, but they are there through all of the craziness to keep encouraging me, and to come alongside me to help me up my mountains. When my dad died, my friends came along to encourage me and to be there. Even in the times I felt all alone and I didn’t want to be around people, they kept persisting that I hang out with them and go places. And even the times when I would end up breaking down crying… they didn’t think I was crazy… no, they came alongside me and encouraged me and gave me a shoulder to cry on. Even when our friendships were a little rocky, they were there for me.
And the friendships that seemed like were long past being rescued, they would come and find me to talk and made the friendship even stronger.
You see, the difference is, as a child we love God, or maybe we didn’t, but our relationship with God was totally different than our relationship now. Because now we know even more about Him, and yet we still have yet to crack the surface of who He really is. But now I see Him in the faces of my friends. Because He is using them to help me. He has put friends in my life to be the God in the flesh.
We weren’t created to live life alone. We were created to be in communion with God and others. Believe me, there’s no relationship that has gone so far that it can’t be reconciled. God is in the reconciliation business. Now, I’m not saying that everyone will always stay in your close circle of friends, but I am saying that forgiveness is what reconciles you to another person. And believe me, living in unforgiveness is what the devil wants you to do. Do you know why? In Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount He said,
““ And when you pray, make sure you forgive the faults of others so that your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you withhold forgiveness from others, your Father withholds forgiveness from you.””
Matthew 6:14-15 TPT
I don’t want anything to stop Papa from forgiving me. And it’s not that I forgive people only to receive His forgiveness. But I know how bad it is for myself mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally to live a life when I haven’t forgiven someone.
I don’t really know what brought this up… Holy Spirit must have prompted me to go here. I started this blog over a week ago… but I was thinking down a different path. Holy Spirit knew someone needed to read this. Shoot, sometimes I need the reminder myself.
For as long as I can remember I have heard my mom remind me of the verse in Ephesians that says, “Do not let the sun go down on your anger.” You see, we aren’t guaranteed tomorrow. You aren’t guaranteed tomorrow. Would you want anyone to know that your final thoughts about them was how angry you were? Don’t live in regret. Don’t let guilt or shame talk you out of forgiving whoever it is that you need to forgive.
Guilt and shame will tell you things like, “You deserve to be mad at them for what they did to you,” “They don’t deserve forgiveness… they are the ones that were in the wrong, why can’t they ask for forgiveness,” or “Why should I ask for forgiveness? They made me mad so I said all of those things to them.” But God says, “Forgive them, because I created you to live in freedom.” We can’t experience freedom if we are holding others in bondage by withholding forgiveness from them.
Adulting isn’t a bad thing. Adulting shows that you have lived a life up to this point of allowing you to know more, be more, help more, love more, free more, forgive more, and so much more! Let’s be the adults that Papa created us to be. Let’s tackle those mountains together. Don’t try to isolate yourself when the mountain is coming, when the snow storms come and you can’t see anything in front of you… find those who are in your life that you know you can count on, and be that person for those who are in your life that needs to count on you.
If you don’t have a person, or a group of people, that you can count on… think about those you know, and evaluate if there is something you could do different to allow them to be that person.
Also, think and ask Holy Spirit if there is anyone in your life that you need to extend forgiveness to, or if you need to ask for forgiveness. Don’t be a child, be an adult and pick up your phone and extend forgiveness!